The life of a professional trucker is one of adventure, fulfillment, and accomplishment. Being a trucker’s spouse can be just as fulfilling, if the role is approached properly. A trucker’s family can either embrace or fight against the responsibilities that accompany such an occupation. We advise spouses of truckers to welcome their partner’s chosen profession and positively consider the benefits of being a trucker’s spouse. Regard being a trucker’s spouse a privilege and enjoy their chosen profession by following the tips listed below:
Five Tips on How to Make the Most of Being a Trucker’s Spouse
1.) Keep in Touch
Today, there are many methods truckers’ spouses can employ to stay in touch with their partners. The miles in between them and their loved one grows small when they utilize the available technology, like Skype or Facetime. If a trucker’s schedule doesn’t mesh well with that of his family, text messages can be used instead.
The point being, make staying in touch via some sort of communication a priority during the absence of a long-haul trip. This effort in communication will go a long way in keeping the relationship healthy and ensuring a trucker is apprised of all the events affecting the family during their absence.
Spouses of truckers can share personal information about their own jobs or the issues affecting their children, either good or bad. In essence, technology today allows families to remain connected, even when families are hundreds, or even thousands, of miles apart.
2.) Ensure You Have Some Substitutes At The Ready
Spouses with partners who are often on the road for weeks at a time should have help at the ready. This could be help from family members, such as a mom or dad, siblings, or even family friends. Spouses shouldn’t be afraid to ask for help when they find themselves in need of an extra set of hands or a car.
For example, the logistics of getting kids to and from sports, school activities and other responsibilities, all seemingly at the same time, can be daunting, even for a couple with both partners at home, so when one parent is hard at work away from home, the remaining parent often needs to get some help from others to fulfill all the family needs. Spouses of truckers can employ the use of a team carpool system for sports or ask their kids’ grandparents to lend a hand if they are nearby. It’s important for spouses to realize that asking for help isn’t wrong or a sign of weakness.
Remember, even when a mom and dad are both available, it can be an arduous task to juggle the activities of a busy family. Therefore, plan ahead for long-haul trips and ask for help when necessary. There is no shame in doing this.
3.) Learn The Lingo And The Responsibilities of The Profession
Another tip for spouses of truckers is to educate themselves about the trucking industry. Spouses can feel left out when their partners talk about their job when the lingo and day-to-day responsibilities are foreign to them. The easiest way to remedy this issue is for a spouse to ask their partner to explain what their day-to-day responsibilities entail and share the lingo. If possible (this isn’t always an available option), spouses should go with their husbands on a run. This will show them the real-life way they accomplish their jobs and the responsibilities each run involves. Walking a mile in their spouse’s shoes will give partners of truckers a much better understanding of the stress levels and overall job experience of truckers when compared to simply asking them to explain it.
Of course, if a ride-along isn’t possible, a trucker can still do their best to explain things to their spouse, so they understand their partner’s responsibilities while on the job. This explanation will allow a spouse to help carry the burden their partner experiences, emotionally if not otherwise, during trips. This knowledge will also help them enjoy the stories the trucker shares about their day or their trip overall even more.
4.) Take Advantage of The Available Time
In between long-haul trips, spouses should spend as much quality time with each other as possible. The adage that says “absence makes the heart grow fonder” is exemplified by the relationship between a spouse and their trucker partner. When a trucker is home and with their family, they should enjoy their time together. This can include taking family trips or just staying home and spending time together. Opt for spending quality over quantity time during the years when long-haul trips are frequent happenings.
Of course, all spouses want to spend more time with their partner than they are able. That’s true for virtually any occupation, though, not just truckers. Ideally, spouses of truckers will make a special point to ensure time at home is extra special for the whole family. This time will sustain the relationship when truckers are away from home.
5.) Have an Independent Life
Spouses should always have a life independent of their partners and children. This is true regardless of their husband’s profession. People should always invest in themselves in some form. This can mean getting involved in a community outreach program, their children’s schools, religious organization, their own profession, or volunteering. Spouses of truckers shouldn’t spend their time counting the days until their partners are back home when they are away. Sure, because they love them and value their involvement in their families, so they will miss their partners.
However, spouses should always have their own interests that keep them occupied and fulfilled apart from their families. In this way, being a trucker’s spouse actually provides a measure of freedom to partners not always enjoyed by partners of spouses who are consistently present. The absence of a spouse can allow their partner to flourish when it comes to standing on their own two feet and investing herself in endeavors outside the family relationships.
Bottom Line of Spouses of Truckers
The benefits of being a trucker far outweigh any hardships or challenges that come along with the profession. This is also true for a trucker’s family. Thankfully, by embracing the tips listed above, spouses of truckers are able to ensure their experience as a trucker’s partner is a positive one overall, and that their family embraces all the benefits of the profession.
The financial security of the professional trucking industry is considered a blessing by many and spouses of truckers should appreciate the stability this type of employment provides their family.
Knight Transportation is proud to partner with an abundance of trucking families and understands the importance of a spouse’s role in their partner’s occupational satisfaction. Therefore, we encourage truckers’ spouses to embrace the tips listed above and support their trucker partners in all their endeavors, leading to a more positive experience for the entire family. Happy trucking!